Kiss Like You Mean it!

Some people never learn how to kiss. Or at least they never learn how to adapt their kissing style.

You know the ones, their tongues dart down your throat or flaps weakly in your mouth. They kiss you with clenched lips or they open their mouth so wide your face is suctioned into their gaping mouth. It’s not too late to learn how to kiss with style. Here are 10 tips on how to give the perfect kiss.

1. Slow Down:

   Start with lips slightly parted and kiss his or her lower lip with your upper lip. This is not a good time to see how far you can stick your tongue down their throat. Spend time kissing without using your tongue, unless you both can’t help going at it like a bunch of wild banshees. For the rest of you lovers: take it slow.

2. Take a look:

   When the moment allows, stop kissing your partner for a second and look into their eyes.  After all, you have to come up for air at some point. Eye contact enhances intimacy and excitement.

3. Lighten up:

   Throw in some light kisses between the more passionate, longer kisses.

4. Mix it up:

   You’re not restricted to just his or her lips. Feel free to kiss other parts of the face like the earlobes, cheeks, or even just one lip at a time. There are so many erogenous zones around the lips. Go find them!

5. Mr. Big Mouth:

   Gentlemen, remember your mouth is bigger than hers. Try not to engulf her with your giant man lips.

6. Tease:

   Go in for the kiss and right before your lips touch, pull back. Teasing makes your lover want it even more. Go in for the kiss again and barely brush lips. Spend time lightly touching lips and tongues together. After you build up the tension, go in for the full make out.

7. Tongue tied:

   If you have no idea what to do with your tongue, try sticking it out only halfway when you kiss. Leave tonsil hockey to sexually frustrated teenagers. Start by moving your tongue above and below your partner’s tongue. Don’t go too fast at the beginning. Fast movements often express horniness more than they express passion.

8. Nibble and dabble:

   Nibble the lip a little. Drag your teeth gently across the bottom lip without acting like a creepy vampire. Bloody lips and hickeys are not sexy. But sucking on your partner’s tongue is.

9. Show me yours:

   If you’re not sure if you’re an amazing kisser, ask your partner to kiss you the way they want to be kissed. Then switch. Now show them your best moves. If you’re dating someone who kisses with clenched dinosaur lips, this game will hopefully solve the kissing crisis.

10. Never stop:

    Spend more time kissing. Keep your pants on for a few extra minutes and make out. Remember how much fun it was to kiss when you were young and less jaded? When you spent hours just kissing and dry humping on a jungle gym. (Okay guys, I know dry humping hurt your balls but it was still pretty awesome, wasn’t it?)

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11 Flirting Fails Made By All Twentysomethings

Somewhere in between pushing each other on the schoolyard and starting a joint bank account, there's us, mostly drunk-texting with no idea what we are doing. We've all been guilty of giving or getting one of these doozies.

1. Relying on alcohol as a mating/dating technique. Yes, after that magic first kiss with a crush after a few glasses of champagne, it occurs to us that drinking makes dating more ~*~mAgiCaL.~**~ Cut to three years later, when you are on the worst, most uncomfortable online date of all time, and wind up sleeping with the guy because you’re shitfaced.

 

2. Negging as a pickup technique. There is a (hopefully) small window of time in the lives of many twentysomethings during which they’re attracted to people who, subtly or less subtly, make them feel worthless. Dude, walking up to a girl you think is pretty and telling her her ass looks big in those pants doesn’t make you Don Draper.

3. Only communicating via text when not in person. You know. Text messages. Which seem angry if you do something as insignificant as put a period on the end of them. Using a tonally-ambiguous, hard-to-analyze form of communication from the start of your relationship is a great idea for establishing mutual trust! And it certainly will not make at least one party want to toss their iPhone in an active volcano!

 

4. Cutting down people of the same sex (i.e. your "competition") in order to win your crush over. "You know Alison, right? Don’t you think she dresses weird? And her teeth are crooked? Haha. Anyway, you’re super-attracted to me now that I cut another girl down, right?" Nope, you just look like a dickhead.

5. Incestuous clique dating. Just because it worked out on Friends doesn't mean it'll work out for you

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You go in expecting the kind of adorbs makeups and breakups that will only keep the group apart temporarily, and next thing you know you’re crouching under a table hiding from your ex and his new girlfriend, who happens to be your friend, and by the way, you’re dating your ex’s brother, and can someone please bring you a stiff drink under this table?

6. Flirting with a friend’s current or ex-boyfriend. Current: Under no circumstances. Past: Only with express permission. Otherwise:  

7. Getting stuck in a messaging back-and-forth on a dating site. In the swamp of online dating there lurk certain men, like the most boring alligators of all time, who strike up conversations with you and never ask you out. They are a time-suck. Many people write “three message limit” on their profiles to avoid these people; I suggest you do too. Or else:

 

8. Early terms of endearment or early touching. Being the giver or the getter of a premature "Baby" or waist-touch mid-conversation is the actual worst.  

9. Asking zero questions about the person you’re on a date with.

 Way to go, Selfish.

10. Talking about your ex.

Especially in that obsessive, negative way that means part of the person still is not over him/her.

11. Drunk texting. Drunk texting. Drunk texting.

 

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/twentysomething-flirting-fails

5 Ways to Be a Sexier & More Confident Date

Confidence is one of the sexiest things about a woman. It shows that she has other character traits that men love -- the ability to stand up for herself, empowerment, good looks, and sassiness. Not only that, but confident women embrace their assertiveness over their own sexuality -- and they know what they want.

Confidence is knowing that you're worth a lot and that you have value to add. It's a deep feeling of certainty about who you are and what you stand for.

But dating, especially after a divorce or break-up, can leave women with their confidence shaken to the core. Sometimes being confident is easier said than done.

Here are some tips for being confident while dating.

Remember, comfortable is not the same as confident. To be empowered, you must get in touch with your innermost self and learn to feel certain about who you are and what you stand for. This can pull you squarely out of the "I guess he's good enough" rut and into a relationship you deserve.

Start small. The more confidence you have in a single area of your life (For example: I am excellent at snowboarding), the more it will seep into other areas of your life. It's hard to look at the big picture and say, "I WILL be confident in ALL of these things." So start small, build that confidence.

Fake it until you make it. Sometimes, the very act of approaching a great guy, or making eyes at someone, or taking that first step into dating, can create a cascade effect. The more you do it, the easier it'll become. And the more confident you'll become about doing it again.

Channel your inner diva. If you're feeling like you're blowing a first date, think of your favorite diva and how SHE would react. Pretty soon, that inner diva will be you.

Smile. There's very little sexier than a killer smile. It's your first impression, and it's likely to last a long time.

Do you have any dating confidence-building tips?


http://thestir.cafemom.com/love_sex/131436/5_ways_to_be_a?source=yourtangostirbuttonhs

10 Surprising Facts About Kissing

Ten kissing facts, traditions and out-there laws.

Forget sex. Kissing can be one of the most intimate, sensual, and just plain fun things you can do with another person. And as anyone who is sex-educated knows: the better the foreplay, the better the sex. Read on to discover ten unusual kissing facts, and be grateful that locking lips no longer leads you to the guillotine.

1. According to anthropologists, 90 percent of people kiss. But that doesn’t mean that kissing is the same for everyone. Kissing customs vary across the world.

For instance, certain African tribes literally kiss the ground of their leaders, while in many parts of Europe, it is not unusual for men to kiss each other. Kissing people on both cheeks as a form of greeting is another popular custom in many parts of the world, and both Eskimos and Egyptians "kiss" by rubbing noses, hence an "Eskimo kiss." 

2. PDA was strictly forbidden in old-school Italy. In 16th century Naples, the punishment for kissing was the death penalty. We bet there were a lot of unhappy women. And a lot of hangings.

3. Be careful where you kiss. Though the punishment's not quite as harsh as our Italian predecessors, kissing is still illegal in some parts of the United States.

Those in Cedar Rapids, Iowa are not allowed to kiss strangers and women in Hartford, Conn. are not legally allowed to lock lips with their husbands on Sundays. And mustached Indiana men can forget about ever becoming "players." According to Indiana law, it is illegal for men who have a mustache to "habitually kiss human beings."

3. Let's talk science. Kissing generally uses one muscle, called the orbicularis oris, that is responsible for puckering your lips when you kiss. The science of kissing itself is called philematology.

4. Making out can be healthy for you. Kissing for one minute burns 26 calories. So enjoy that chocolate cake, and make up for it later with an extended make-out sesh with your partner.

6. It is considered good luck to kiss the Blarney Stone, but you may die trying. Kissing the Blarney Stone located in Cork, Ireland, is no easy feat. One poor pilgrim even fell to his death trying to accomplish the task.

To kiss the stone, you have to sit with your back facing the stone while someone holds your feet. Then you lean backwards, hold on to the handrails placed specifically there for this purpose, and lower yourself until you can reach the stone and kiss it. Sounds simple enough, right?

7. The world record for longest kiss goes to Americans Rich Langley and Louisa Almedovar for a session lasted 30 hours and 59 minutes. No word on if they got food and bathroom breaks. 

http://www.yourtango.com/200922434/10-unusual-kissing-facts

8 Non Verbal Signs He Is Into You

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Wondering if He Is Into You? Well wonder no more because there are more than a few good ways to know for sure! His body language, for example, can speak more than words and learning how to interpret it could save you a lot of troubles, a lot of sleepless nights and, of course, a lot of nerves. Yes, there are plenty of small clues you’ll need to keep an eye on in order to determine if he is into you but, once you know exactly what to look for you’ll actually find it very easy! So, are you ready to stop guessing? Well, do keep reading, dear, as I’m about to list 8 moves your man is bound to make if he is into you!

1. RAISED EYEBROW(S)

People who make their living studying human behavior have noticed something rather interesting – men tend to raise their eyebrows whenever they see something (or, in this case, somebody) they like. Raised eyebrows make his eyes appear bigger and the light reflecting in them makes them appear brighter, shinier and more attractive. This is one of those smart tricks Mother Nature uses to make sure the person one admires sees all his best features and, although this movement might not last more than a few seconds, that’s still plenty of time for you to take notice.

2. LEANING FORWARD

Oh, this tip is definitely going to help you determine whether he is into you and I strongly advise you to remember it! Observe the way he acts when he’s around you because his body might say much more than his lips are prepared to! Whether you’re sitting across from each other or standing really close, he is supposed to be turned towards you, his torso leaning forward. This shows that he wants to be close to you. If he’s looking around, wiggling in his chair too much, if he turns sideways or turns his back on you, you can rest assured he’s a lost case, sister, which pretty much means that you should stop wasting your time.

3. “OPEN” BODY

When a woman crosses her legs it doesn’t mean much but when a man does such thing he is actually telling you that he isn’t willing to open up or let you get close to him. Crossed arms are also not a good sign either as that shows he’s trying to put up a wall and make himself unavailable to you. Pay attention to how relaxed he is when being around you because, although he might feel and act a bit strange at first, his body is supposed to relax, turn towards you and kind of “open up” as you get to know each other better.

4. TRYING TO LOOK GOOD FOR YOU

If he is into you, he will definitely want to look good for YOU and you’ll notice that by paying attention to how often he fixes his hair/collar/tie when you’re around. I’m not talking about narcissistic egomaniacs whose sole purpose in life is to look good, oh no, no, no – I’m talking about real men here! You see, even an average Joe who, in any other occasion, couldn’t care less about his looks will feel the need to “fix” something when trying to leave a good impression on a woman he likes and, although he might do that secretly (when the object of his admiration is in the ladies room), the chances of her noticing it on her way back are more than good.

5. LETTING YOU NOTICE THAT HE’S CHECKING YOU OUT

He will check you out top to bottom, allowing himself the liberty of letting you SEE that! You shouldn’t feel like Columbus, though, because your discovery isn’t that grand! The truth is that he has checked you out many times before and the only reason for which he’s doing it now is to let you know that he’s not only looking but enjoying the view as well!

6. TOUCHING HIS FACE

If your date is touching his face, ears or rubbing his chin you have a good reason to believe he is into you! This is how men react in moments when they are nervous and excited and, according to experts, it has something to do with their skin being more sensitive to touch at those times.

7. TRYING TO TOUCH YOU

He’ll touch your hand while trying to explain something, lean forward to tuck in a lock that has gone wild, admire you bracelet or even your nail art just so he would have a reason to touch you again without appearing too forward. Now, don’t pretend like you haven’t noticed (or even done) this before! LOL!

8. OFFER TO LEND YOU SOMETHING

A true gentleman will offer his coat/jacket/blazer if you’re cold but, should he insist on you keeping it, you should know he is into you. This heroic move won’t only put him in your good graces but guarantee he’ll get the chance to see you again too because…well… he’ll need his jacket back eventually.

No room for doubt now because the case is pretty clear – if your date starts demonstrating any or all of these “moves”, you will be able to read them like a pro and know that he is into you long before he actually decides to put it in words! Pretty neat, isn’t it? Go ahead, give it a shot and let me know which one of these clues gave him away and made you absolutely and positively sure that he is into you?

http://love.allwomenstalk.com/non-verbal-signs-that-he-is-into-you/8/

10 Ways To Flirt With Your Face

Face first - Never mind body language, your face alone is all he needs to see to get the green-light signals on that first date... Allow your gaze to drink in what you see. According to experts when we look at the faces of friends our eyes move in a triangle - from eye to eye and down at the nose and mouth. If we're attracted to the person, the triangle gets wider at the bottom as we look further down and incorporate their body into our gaze.

Lingering looks - Holding his gaze is the most self-assured way to give him the green light. But you wouldn't want to have sex without foreplay, would you? Therefore build things up gradually. Catch his eye briefly at first then lower your gaze. Look up again holding for longer this time and teaming with a hint of a smile.

Bat your lashes - It's widely known that our pupils dilate when we're looking at someone we find attractive. But did you know we apparently blink more, too? Up your blink rate and see if he does the same. If he does, you're onto a winner. But don't go overboard or he may just think you have something stuck in your eye.

Lingering lips - Once you get the hang of the ‘love triangle', allow your gaze to linger on his lips for a little longer from time to time. This is a super-sensual move and indicates that you are wondering what it would be like to kiss him.

Pouting can be sexy when it's done right (see next tip) but first things first - you want him to know that you actually like being with him. And nothing shouts that more clearly than natural, happy smiles and laughter. A real smile as opposed to a fake one will cause wrinkles at the corner of your eyes but don't worry, he'll see this as your eyes lighting up - not a sign that you have crow's feet.

Forget the Victoria Beckham impressions. Research suggests men find moody looking women a turn-off. Pouting is not about puckering your lips like you're sucking a lemon. The sexiest pout is when you relax your mouth and allow your bottom lip to drop slightly open so he can see a little bit of white teeth showing through.

Touching your face, mouth or hair is a subconscious sign of sensuality. It will tell him that you're a tactile person and give the signal that you want to touch him and be touched. He'll be hot under the collar in no time.

It's a female instinct to bring out your feminine wiles when on a full-on charm offensive. Slightly tilting your head so you're looking up at him coyly , twiddling your hair and biting your lower lip are all instinctive girlie tactics that will bring out his masculine side. 

Now that you've learned a bit more about the secret signs that will tell him you're keen hopefully the information will have been absorbed by your subconscious. Don't spend too much time thinking about your body language and facial expressions. Simply relax and enjoy the company of your date and your face will naturally do the talking.

http://www.cosmopolitan.co.uk/love-sex/dating-guide/10-ways-to-flirt-your-face-104758#

9 Subtle Ways To Flirt With Men

Ways to Flirt with Men range from openly asking them out to shyly staring at him from the corner. But, as with anything else in life, there is a happy medium and plenty of subtle ways to flirt with men! The key isn't as tricky as many people might would think! There are a few subtle yet attention-grabbing things you can do to make sure his eyes are on you all evening long! It doesn't matter if you are married, in a relationship or single-these tips will give you some great ways to flirt with men! Whether it's the one you have or the one you plan to get, you'll be so glad you read this article that is bursting with super fabulous tips on ways to flirt with men!

1. BE PLAYFUL-A GREAT WAY TO FLIRT WITH MEN

Men love a woman who can laugh and smile along with the rest of them so remember not to be too uptight and stiff! Go with the flow and make little jokes and tease him. Just don't be TOO much of a tease and stay away from any sort of teasing that could be taken in the wrong way! If a guy thinks you are making fun of him, you can bet he won't be asking for your number at the end of the night!

2. WEAR A DRESS

One of the best ways to flirt with men without needing to say a single word is by putting on a girly, floaty, feminine dress! Guys love it when a girl wears a dress or a skirt. Remember, part of flirting is all in the attitude, so if you want to come across as flirty, you need to feel flirty. Wearing a dress is a great way to achieve that!

3. SMILE AT HIM

Think about it: How many guys would you be interested in if all they did was frown at you? No one likes a sour face! Suck on a mint, slap on some gloss, use whitening strips-whatever you need to do in order to flash those pearly whites! And catch and hold his gaze from across a room if you want him to know you are interested in talking to him a bit more later on!

4. TOUCH HIM LIGHTLY

It doesn't take much to get a guy's pulse pounding a little harder and one of my favorite ways to do that and one of the best ways to flirt with men is by lightly touching him while you are having a conversation. How's that for killing two birds with one stone! Tap his forearm while you converse together, brush shoulders when you walk past him or graze his leg as you sit beside him. He will notice, believe me!

5.COMPLIMENT HIM-A SUREFIRE WAY TO FLIRT WITH MEN

Men love to be admired and have their ego stroked, especially by women. And complimenting a guy is one of the best ways to flirt with him! So find something to mention to him that will stand out. Be sincere about it, but let him know that you noticed! 

6. BE INTERESTED

If you want to know one of the most effective ways to flirt with men, it's by showing interest. If a guy doesn't think you care, he may not give you a second glance no matter how pretty you are! Ask him about his work, his hobbies and what he likes to do. Look at him when he talks to you and make eye contact. Just be careful not to pry into personal areas of his life right away!

7. PAY ATTENTION TO HIM

When there is a roomful of cute, available guys, it can be easy to move on to the next one if the one you're talking to doesn't seem very interesting at first. But in order to get HIS attention, you need to make him feel like you aren't scoping out all the other guys in the room! Talk and look at HIM, even if his buddies are standing nearby. This shows him you are interested in HIM even though there are other fish in the sea!

8. BITE YOUR LOWER LIP

I've heard many guys say that it's sexy when a girl bites her lower lip softly. It's one of the many ways to flirt with a guy, so give it a shot! Just don't overdo it. You don't want to come across as nervous or chew off all your lipstick. Every now and then for emphasis is just fine!

9. BE RELAXED

Guys can sense when a girl is nervous or scared. So try not to be too uptight! Relax, be yourself and let the mood flow. That's the best piece of advice I can give you on ways to flirt with men. He will know if you are being sincere with him and it will all be downhill from there!

I hope you enjoyed my article with ways to flirt with men. As women, flirting is one of our natural rights, isn't it? Of course! And it pays to know the best ways to flirt with men! So use them as often as you can! Just use discretion and most importantly-have fun! Do you have any great tips or ways to flirt with men? Please comment below and thanks for reading!

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