How Can I Find Love?: for men

Most guys just don't get it...

They’re baffled when they act sensitive, polite and nice when they first meet a woman, then get slam-dunked into her “friend zone” — that no-man’s land where women tell you their problems and cry on your shoulder but won’t even consider dating you.

If you’re a guy who usually ends up in the friend zone, then here’s a wake-up call: your sensitive, polite, innocent behavior does absolutely nothing to create feelings of can’t-keep-her-hands-off-you attraction in a woman.

Creating that feeling requires behaving in totally different way. This in mind, here come three sure-fire ways to escape the friend zone for good…

1. Stop Making Excuses.
When you first meet a woman, don’t make excuses or hide the reason that you’re approaching her in the first place. In other words, your “stories” about wanting to borrow her phone, see what she’s reading or help her carry her bags? Guess what…they all increase your chances of having her think of you as “just a friend” right from the start.

On the other hand, if you want to ignite feelings of attraction in a woman, then you need to come across as potential “date” material right out of the gate. You accomplish this by being direct with her… preferably in a funny way (for example, turn the tables by telling her, “I get so tired of women wanting to get physical with me. You look like you’d just like to be friends, so let’s grab some tea.”).

Do it, and you make her feel intrigued, captivated, and interested instantly…instead of just making her imagine how nice it will be to have you as a friend to help with her phone and carry her bags.

2. Show Her You Have A Life.
Most guys come off sounding a bit shy and needy when they first approach a woman. It’s only natural and extremely common — but it also commonly triggers a natural response inside a woman that says, “Awww, he’s so cute. He’d make a great friend.”

This is why it’s critical to show a woman right away that, even if you’re the shy type, that you have a life. That you’d love to have some fun with her and see where it goes, but if she’s not into it, then it’s no big deal. You have a life, and you’ll just move on (as opposed to hanging around as a “friend” waiting for her). The best way to accomplish this is by not “asking” a woman out at at all. Instead, let her know you have plans and that she can join you if she’d like.

And by the way — make sure that you don’t talk yourself into rejection by “going for it all.” Don’t go on and on about where you’ll take a woman on an amazing date, and how much mind-blowing fun she’s guaranteed to have with you. All of this just creates awkwardness, pressure, and resistance…so don’t do it.

3: Don’t Wait too long to “Make Your Move.”
The biggest reason that a guy gets banished to the friend zone is that he waits too long to make his move with a woman. This means delaying “getting physical” with her, plain and simple. When a man does this, he sends two fatal signals: That he’s not confident, which is the ultimate attraction killer. Or that he’s just not interested in taking things any further.

In a nutshell…you know you’re interested in “that” way, but a woman has no clue until you show her. So early on, guide her with a light hand on her back. Take her by the hand when you cross the street. Throw caution to the wind and go in for that kiss. The worst that can happen is that she pulls back. And then, at least, you know where you really stand and can react accordingly (by either investing more time in her or just moving on).

Either way, here’s what it all of this boils down to: most guys know that once a woman slam-dunks you into the friend category, it’s almost impossible to escape. From then on, they see you as a buddy, a confidante, a shoulder to cry on, also known as the guy she talks to about dating problems with guys that she’s actually ATTRACTED to.

So make no excuses when you approach a woman. Show her that you have a life…don’t wait to make your move …and YOU will become the guy who gets the date (instead of her thanks for being such a great friend).

http://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/dating/three-ways-to-escape-the-friend-zone/#.UxOAwfl_vnc

1. Girls don’t always know what they want.
2. Say something sweet, she likes it. This is one of the best things that you guys should always remember doing, as often as you could especially when she’s not in the mood. A little appreciation about how good she is looking in your date and when she smells great is something that would put a smile on her face even just for a while and would soon ease the tensions within her.
3. Girls always think that they could look better, so guys should inform them of their beauty.
4. Never compare her to other women, even your own mom.
5. Girls try to hint at what they want from guys, they don’t like to say it.
6. A guys girlfriend wants to be the only hand that he wants to hold.
7. If girls flirt with their guy friends in front of their boyfriends, it usually doesn’t mean anything except that they’ve been friends with that guy longer then you have been their boyfriend. Don’t get offended.
8. If a girl wants to meet a guys family, let them. It means they care.
9. When a girl will ditch her friends to hang out with a guy, its a big deal.
10. Girls don’t like to like guys that aren’t over their ex-girlfriends.
11. Girls don’t like to talk about ex’s.
12. If you call a girl “Hot” it doesn’t mean anything.
13. When a girl doesn’t feel good, she doesn’t talk much.
14. If a girl is mad at her boyfriend, she doesn’t want to say anything about it, she just wishes he’d know.
15. When girls don’t want to talk about their ex-boyfriend, shes probably not completely over him.
16. If a girl will sit by her boyfriend’s friends, she really cares about him.
17. When a guy still loves a girl at her worst look, it lets her think that he is sincere about her.
18. Girls love surprises and gifts especially during important occasions. A girl may expect something from her boyfriend but that doesn’t mean she’s a gold digger.
19. Girls love to cuddle!
20. If a girl will be a guys girlfriend, she really likes him.

21. All girls flirt, some don’t mean it.
22. Girls like it when guys ask advice from them. This action just shows that you trust her, and that she’s someone you can count on.
23. Girls already know the truth even before they ask you. So be careful guys.
24. If a girl likes a certain item of clothing that her boyfriend wears, he should wear it more.
25. When girls write guys notes, that guy should keep them.
26. If a guy remembers something important to a girl that she said and he brings it up later, it makes that girls feel special.
27. Girls want a guy to prove that there not all the same.
28. If a girl admits that she misses a guy, she really does.
29. Girls hesitate to fall in love because they always assume they’ll get hurt. Prove to your girl you won’t hurt her.
30. Girls feel flattered if a guy would greet him first in their special occasions (e.g. monthsaries, anniversaries, etc.) because a guy tend to be forgetful.
31. Girls love it when guys say sweet things in front of their friends, but understand if they don’t

32. If a girl tells a guy she was talking about him with her friends, its always about something good.

33. She doesn’t expect you to read her mind; she wants you to ask her.
34. Sometimes, girls test guys to see how they’ll react.
35. If a guy knows a girl isn’t over her ex-boyfriend, don’t call her out on it, show her how much better you are.
36. Girls love to be stared at sometimes. Looking straight in her eyes tells something, this melts her heart especially when she is attracted to you.
37. Girls like guys who can protect her.
38. If a girl really wants to be with a guy, she’ll make sure it happens.
39. Girls don’t like too flirty guys. Flirting with a lot of girls simply means you’re not a one-woman-man; remember that actions speak louder all the time.
40. If a girl is still in love with someone else, they will never say anything bad about them.
41. When a girl slow dances with her boyfriend in the kitchen, with no music on, thats when he knows she’s in love with him.
42. Girls sometimes think if you love them more than you love your exes. And sometimes conclude that you are still not over with your last ex-girlfriend.
43. Changing for the better will let her stick with you. It simply means that you want to grow with her inside the relationship you are building.
44. Girls are more observant than guys think.
45. When girls say NO, it only means keep trying. Girls are inconsistent, especially when deciding for their guy’s interests.
46. When you meet your girlfriend’s mom and she says she’s heard a lot about you, trust her.
47. Girls love to be spoiled. They sometimes have this childish part of them that really comes out especially when they want something really badly.
48. If a girl lays her head on her guys chest and just listens to his heartbeat, she’s listening to see if it will tell her what he’s thinking.
49. Be protective, but not too much. She likes it when you care for her, but not to the point of choking her at times.
50. Girls think too much.

51. When girls say nothing is wrong, shes lying. Everything is wrong.
52. If a girl’s heart has been shattered, she’ll be hesitant to talk about her problems to a guy at first.
53. Sharing your future family plans is important to her. This is your chance to show her how serious you are, especially when you are ready to have a family with her.
54. If a girl dumps a guy because she thinks she can’t make him happiest, that’s love.
55. Girls feel insecure with their boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend.
56. Girls like to be called beautiful all the time. Complimenting how she looks is a big deal for her, telling her how beautiful she is more than enough.
57. Girls love it when guys say they love something about them, like their smile.
58. Girls are good detectives. Some just does not open it up with their boyfriend.
59. Knowing her likes and dislikes is cool for her. This means that you are that interested to get to know her better and to make ways to make her happy.
60. Girls love romantic guys. Kiss her under the rain and in front of your family and friends, it’s not that hard.
61. If a girl wants you to be with her, you’ll know it.
62. If you break a girls heart, she’ll never be the same.
63. When a girl holds a guys hand, she never wants to let it go.
64. Never underestimate the feelings a girl has for her boyfriend.
65. If a girl really loves you, she won’t be able to see anything bad about you.
66. Girls are sometimes drama queens, but you are not allowed to call her that. It would make the whole situation worst, just go with the flow and be the man she needs for the moment.
67. If a girl thinks you’ll judge her for something, she’ll never open up to you fully.
68. When a girl tells you about things she loves, like staring at stars or listening to the rain, shes falling for you.
69. Girls adore guys who don’t only think about sex.
70. It hurts girls to dump guys.
71. If a girl really cares about a guy, you can see it in her eyes.
72. Girls can flirt with every guy around, but at the end of the day, she’ll be watching the sun set with the one she truly loves.
73. If a girl tells you a secret, don’t ever let it go.
74. When girls hear about their boyfriend bragging about the little things, like watching tv together, it makes them appreciate him more.
75. Girls hate it when guys ignore them.
76. Girls never touch guys by accident.
77. Hugging her without a reason is a very sweet thing for her, especially when you do it surprisingly.
78. When a girl asks a guy what their thinking, they really do care.
79. First rule when you enter her life, never cheat! You would want to think twice before getting involved with two girls at the same time. It’s just whether one girl would stick with you, or both girls would slap and make the hell out of you, so be sure that you are really a good guy when you are looking for a good girl.
80. Girls love special things especially when it’s given as a surprise. Do something special for her sometimes. Doing something like giving her flowers and stuff toys just for no reason would make her day very important and worth remembering. Making girls feel exceptional would make them feel good about themselves as and will take away some of their insecurities as well.
81. Girls look at the other girls that their boyfriend is with as their enemy.
82. Girls hate it when their guy friends make fun of their boyfriend.
83. Try to be interested with her interests. Girls would really appreciate a guy who makes an effort to blend-in with her hobbies.
84. Make time for her. The time that you give her is very important for her, and as much as possible any disturbances should not be an option for you or else she will feel taken for granted.
85. If a girl hates someone, her boyfriend should probably not talk to them.
86. A good way to make a girl mad is not trust her when she’s being honest.
87. Walk her home after a date, she wants to feel safe. Even if girls do not say it, they want to be walked safely to their homes. Doing this as a gentleman would be a very big thing, especially for girls who just observing you if you can really take care of them.
88. Girls love it when the guy doesn’t take long to reply and keep the conversation going.
89. Girls want to feel that your proud of having them. They may not tell you but sometimes they want you to show them off to your family and friends.
90. Treat your girl right, or someone else will.
91. If a girl laughs at a guys every joke, she likes him.
92. Don’t make her say something repeatedly. This manner would really pick something on girls, and if you keep on asking her about something for the 3rd and 4th time, it just shows and means that you are not interested and not listening carefully to what she is talking about.
93. Girls know when a guy is lying.
94. Girls are way too forgiving. Don’t take advantage of it.
95. If a girl says your important to her, its true.
96. When girls hold their boyfriends tight, they never want to let that moment go.
97. Girls remember little things the most.
98. When a girl is being serious, listen to her.
99. When guys tell something meaningful, girls treasure it. Your evocative words that catch girl’s attention would really last a lifetime in their hearts.